Paper cup per participant, marbles, wooden dowel (tape mark 1/3 of the length), plastic spoon (attached to dowel)


Everyone sits in a circle behind a rope. They each have a plastic drinking cup placed face up between themselves and the rope. Marbles act as "pearls of wisdom" that are scattered on the floor inside the circled rope. The object is to "glean wisdom" from their community... but they can not pick up the marbles with their fingers, touch their cup, or move from their sitting position.

After about 30 seconds of going "Huh?!", give each person a 5 foot wooden dowel with a plastic spoon taped on the end. At the other end of the dowel is a "black mark" about six inches up from the end. They must keep their hand(s) behind that mark at all time.

First they have to work with others in their "community" in order to get a "pearl of wisdom" (marble) in their spoon. But then (if they obey the rules above) they still can not get the "pearl" in their own cup. But quickly they learn that if they reach out to others in their community and give them a pearl (model the way) then someone is just as likely to reach over to them and place a "pearl" in their cup.

This is very effective in facilitating a discussion around "give and take", sharing with those around you, how it feels when we help others, how we feel when others help us, "gleaning wisdom" from the community also means I must be willing to give / help those around me, and that classic "win-win" we are all looking for in leaders.